Dear Miss Know It All
Blair Conard
Issue date: 9/27/04 Section: Features
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Dear Miss Know It All,
I am a freshman this year. So far I like college, but I am having trouble with my roommate. She is nice but we don't hang out or talk much in the room, and we never go out to do something together. What's going on?!
Frantic in Coblentz
Dear Frantic,
Let me start by assuring you not to worry. First of all, remember that you just got here. You are still adjusting to college life, and are probably living away from home - not to mention in the same room as a complete stranger - for the first time in your life. I know it can be weird at first. You and your roommate are both trying to operate in entirely new circumstances. Just because you do not hang out much doesn't mean she hates you. She may be busy and trying to adjust to Hood in her own way.
Second, keep in mind that just because you are roommates does not mean you have to be best friends. Honestly, you don't even have to be friends. As long as everything is reasonable and you are not trying to ambush each other, that is what matters. You can't possibly be friends with everyone you meet, because not everyone will get along with you as well as your best friend back at home. I understand it is frustrating to live with someone who is tough to strike a conversation with, but be
thankful you are atleast coexisting functionally.
If you are worried about making friends, get involved with clubs, student organizations, and/or sports teams. I can tell you from experience that you will usually find people with similar interests in those groups. Go to some meetings and see which clubs you like the best. Surround yourself with like-minded people, and you are sure to make friends. Good luck and enjoy your first year!
Best Wishes,
Miss Know It All
I am a freshman this year. So far I like college, but I am having trouble with my roommate. She is nice but we don't hang out or talk much in the room, and we never go out to do something together. What's going on?!
Frantic in Coblentz
Dear Frantic,
Let me start by assuring you not to worry. First of all, remember that you just got here. You are still adjusting to college life, and are probably living away from home - not to mention in the same room as a complete stranger - for the first time in your life. I know it can be weird at first. You and your roommate are both trying to operate in entirely new circumstances. Just because you do not hang out much doesn't mean she hates you. She may be busy and trying to adjust to Hood in her own way.
Second, keep in mind that just because you are roommates does not mean you have to be best friends. Honestly, you don't even have to be friends. As long as everything is reasonable and you are not trying to ambush each other, that is what matters. You can't possibly be friends with everyone you meet, because not everyone will get along with you as well as your best friend back at home. I understand it is frustrating to live with someone who is tough to strike a conversation with, but be
thankful you are atleast coexisting functionally.
If you are worried about making friends, get involved with clubs, student organizations, and/or sports teams. I can tell you from experience that you will usually find people with similar interests in those groups. Go to some meetings and see which clubs you like the best. Surround yourself with like-minded people, and you are sure to make friends. Good luck and enjoy your first year!
Best Wishes,
Miss Know It All